Kindness Begins with a thought…
You can act kindly only once you think positively. It’s an expression of your own thought! You cannot fake it. The thought becomes your words. If you cannot speak kind words, better to be silent. Bhagavad Gita Ch 17, verse 15 highlights on austerity of speech.
You can be kind to someone if you already have a preconceived positive notion about that person or something but your kindness vanishes whenever you have a negative thought about the exact same person or thing.
A mother’s love is the ultimate kindness.
If we can emulate that very same love to everyone around we would be in an excellent world! Kindness is expressed in the exact same way whether it’s directed towards a baby, toddler, adult or a senior but we often choose to be different with different people according to our own prejudices.
Quite often, it can be observed that you can be kind to one’s child but not to a neighbor’s child. One may be kind to their loved ones, when one needs something from them but not when the family wants something from this one!
Kindness is assisting when needed with everything you can, once you can, even if it’s just a smile, hug or listening. Others might have the ability to express their kindness in different ways, that is okay because it’s neither a contest nor a standard. Kindness does not mean that you agree with other people all of the time. It means you agree to disagree, you consent to live & let live. People often confuse being nice with kindness.
It’s a like reputation and character. Reputation is others’ perception of you while character is who you are. Being nice is based on how people see you and being sort is how you see yourself. Only when you are happy and contented you can express kindness. If you feel deficient in your life, that will be expressed also. .
Kindness is being gracious even in times of meanness.
A kind person is often thought of, in times of darkness. More often the lack is felt than the existence.
Why is kindness needed?
Scott Adams said,’Remember there’s no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end’.
There are lots of people who are less blessed with health, both physical and psychological and loved ones. First, we will need to count our blessings. Helen Keller quotations,’I cried because I had no shoes until I saw a guy with no legs’, just then you feel the compassion, compassion towards others and thankful for what you have!
There are numerous ways… Choose to add an additional coin whilst parking than required, someone can get the benefit. Reduce the change for charity following shopping, fill in water in a large pot or lemonade in another pot outside the house for the unknown walkers on the road to quench their thirst, water the plants, feed the birds & animals, feed the hunger when you are outside and when they approach you by getting a meal out of a restaurant.
Go ahead and do something great for others, what you can, once you can, with what you have, to bring a smile in that face. Do this with seniors, people in houses, terminally ill people, homeless and lonely folks. You’ll make a huge difference in their life. They often want us to be silent and listen to them. Did you notice both of these words have the same letters?
How can we be kind?
Kindness begins in your home, be kind to your family members. You’re where you are because of them. You parents, your siblings, relations, co-workers, subordinates and supervisors have all contributed in one way or the other.
1 thing I learned from my mother is,’Learn to look into the positive aspects of each one in your life and remember them forever. If you come across negative memories about others forget them immediately, only then kindness, compassion & benevolence will pour out’. She said,’Try not to judge anyone by their behavior, people are inherently kind and compassionate but the challenges that they have faced in their life, and on a particular day, makes them to be otherwise. You, by being kind, can make a big impact in their lives’.